In August of 2012, I started school at Mary Institute and St. Louis Country Day School. Over the first quarter of the school year, many students asked me about Bledsoe Technologies, and I was proud to reply with honest answers. Many students brought up the fact that I owned the business and made it apart of almost every conversation for weeks straight. This being an everyday topic from them, I got the idea that this is a topic that the masses wanted to follow, so at every waking moment I would let them know about the recent accomplishments of the company or myself. “Our parents give us the money that we spend, but Jaylen really has it going for himself” is something I would usually hear from my peers. This quote is a set of words that many students used, which cheered me on more to ‘self-promote’ myself.
More than often when having discussions at the lunch table, others would consistently bring up my business for discussion. I became so accustomed to talking about my business at the request of others that I began to bring it up at any random times no matter who I was with at the moment. There I began to ‘self-promote’ myself with my words, and not with my actions. A week or so ago, I had a discussion with my father about character and being humble. He stated over and over on how talking about your achievements and what you’re doing may be invigorating at the moment, but that invigoration or momentary pride isn’t all that. He began to speak on how letting your work show your achievements is the best for your long-term character and media exposure. He also mentioned that telling everyone you’re every little accomplishment doesn’t help, for when you have that big break through, which could be explained through my big media breakthrough in early 2012. No one except my immediate team and myself knew about the milestones that the company or I had reached, until a representative from the Hazelwood School District interviewed me and submitted an awesome article to many media outlets. I didn’t go around emailing that representative from the Hazelwood School District about every achievement I completed, but he saw photographs that I took for Basketball and player award night at a Hazelwood Middle School. Every time I think of that story, I see what my father means from our conversation last week.
Recently a friend brought to me that bragging was not something that makes you better. When I was told this, I instantly felt sick as I’d never wanted to be the person who was thought of as a bragger. The word ‘bragging’ was something that I have never crossed my mind, when ‘self-promoting’ myself. Since being told this, I have realized that I need to make some major changes soon because bragging can only bring you acquaintances who are now your friends because of what you have. I recently heard a story of a group of girls, denying another girl because they didn’t wear the same clothes. Hearing that story made me think that, if I wore different clothes, if I talked differently, if I didn’t have that business would I be accepted in the same ‘cliques’ that I’m in now. I honestly don’t know a true answer to that, but thinking back to that story, I could probably say no. Many students brought me into their ‘cliques’, mostly due to the fact that I have this successful company behind me. The thought of this lead by confused and somewhat saddened at the fact that background can determine what cliques you are in, but here is a tweet that I received from Pastor Nicole Crank at Faith Church St. Louis.
Let it be known that, I have never met Pastor Nicole, but she is in the business of blessing others anyway that she can, and this is why I plan on visiting Faith Church sometime soon.
@JaylenBledsoe The bible said be led forth with peace. Trust the peace that God gives you and follow that!
— Nicole Crank (@NicoleCrank) January 7, 2013
I have been thinking and praying over the tweet that Pastor Nicole sent and I’m making that reformation. No, this is not a resolution that will last a few days, but a reformation to my lifelong character. I will only show my achievements through my work from now on as there’s no need to promote my achievements to possibly fit in. In addition, I need to show that I am this genius that the business portrays by making that genius show in my academics. Honestly, I have had the lowest GPA in my academic career, I have never had lower than a 3.899 GPA. This is probably because I have spent a lot of my time, ‘self-promoting’ and possibly not applying myself as much as I should in my school work.
Finally, I would like to say sorry to all of those that my “Self-promotion”, or better known as bragging, has affected.